
For my 40th birthday last month, my wife gifted me a movie obligation. She booked a movie theater and invited our friends to a private showing of a movie of my choice. I have no doubt she had the best of intentions with this kind and thoughtful gift. But now I have the burden of choosing a movie to watch, not just by myself or with the two of us at home, but on the big screen with a group of our friends. And my mom. And maybe our son. It’s a big decision.
Those who know me well know that it’s probably going to be that movie. You know the one. That one that’s been my favorite for decades, that I haven’t gotten to see on the big screen in over 30 years. One that had a very particular connection between my dad and I. The one that helped cement my love of cinema, that has my favorite moment in my favorite scene of all time. Directed by my favorite director and scored by my favorite composer. That one.
Or, it could be that other one. Everyone who knows me knows that other one. That one that’s almost 10 years old now, that felt made just for me, that spoke to the very soul of who I am, who I want to be, and how I define myself. You know the one. That one that underperformed at the box office and quietly disappeared, which I may never get the chance to see on the big screen again. The one I carry a piece of around with me at all times. How could I say no to that one?
There are some rules, of course, both written and unwritten. The theater is booked for 2.5 hours, so no Lord of the Rings marathons. It has to be either something currently showing or something I own on DVD. But beyond that, I have the opinions of a dozen or so other people to consider.
Do I pick a crowd-pleaser? Something I know everyone will like? It’s mostly a group of Millennials and GenX, so there are some obvious ones in there. I could do Back to the Future or The Princess Bride or Jurassic Park, something everyone has seen a million times and knows all the dialogue to. But my mom will also be there, and I should modulate my pick to align with her sensibilities (keep the sex and nudity to a minimum). And what about our 6-year-old son? He’s not specifically invited, and we’ve got a babysitter available, but I’d hate to leave him out. There are a million movies that could work for my friends, my mom, and our son, but they’re all things that most people will probably have watched a million times. And while I could watch The Little Mermaid any day of the week, that doesn’t feel special enough for the event.
Or I could say the hell with everybody else and just pick something for me. I could even broaden some horizons in the process. Why not Apocalypse Now: Redux? Other than the nudity and the running length, I mean. Schindler’s List? It’s the greatest film ever made, but boy would that be a terrible thing to subject your friends to. Ok, how about My Dinner with Andre? Nothing like inviting your friends to watch a movie that put you to sleep the first time you saw it. I adore A Prairie Home Companion, and that would be something different for sure. I know one person who would love to see Geostorm on the big screen again, but it’s not fair to pick a movie just for the two of us. Something weird with subtitles? Brotherhood of the Wolf. The Philosophers would be a fantastic pick, but I don’t know that anyone would appreciate it as much as I would. And there aren’t many feelings worse than showing something you love to people you care about and not getting the reaction you hoped for.
I could do something I love to watch and have seen a million times without getting tired of it. I could do Twister. I love Twister so much. Or Independence Day. How about The Muppet Christmas Carol? Who cares if it’s August? Pirates of the Caribbean? I’d really rather watch At World’s End, but that’s over the running time. Maybe Master and Commander: The Far Side of the World, one of my dad’s favorites. Or Serenity? I’ve managed to see that a bunch of times on the big screen, though. If we’re aiming for things the kiddo can watch, I couldn’t go wrong with WALL-E or Ratatouille. Then again, seeing Speed Racer on the big screen again would be a trip.
Then there’s always Star Wars. But which one? Return of the Jedi is my favorite, but A New Hope is the one people would expect. Rogue One would be a great standalone choice. Or, since it’s for my 40th birthday, I could go with Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom. It is, after all, the movie that made my mom go into labor with me. Or I could go with a classic that I love, something like High Noon, or Duck Soup, or City Lights. I could go musical. Something more modern like Moulin Rouge or an older favorite like Singin’ in the Rain.
Maybe what I really want is to watch the Bluey episode “The Sign” four times in a row…
You see my dilemma? I’ve got a big decision to make, and one that’ll affect several hours of my friends’ lives. It’s my birthday party, and I really can pick whatever I want, but I can’t just think of myself. And there are just so many choices. But we all know it’ll be that one. You know the one. Who am I trying to kid? It was always going to be that one.
Unless, of course, it’s that other one…
It’s tough to form an opinion on Avengers: Infinity War. As the culmination of 10 years and 18 movies of building the Marvel Cinematic Universe, it’s more of an event than a film, certainly the most anticipated movie of the year, and probably the most hyped since 




Gravity, despite pulling aspects from a variety of familiar film styles, is a movie that feels unique, which is something with great appeal to me these days. It has much in common with Open Water, the 2003 film about a couple who are left behind while scuba diving, but it also borrows heavily from a variety of disaster movies where people are trapped or stranded and have to improvise a way to survive. And of course, it has a lot in common with Apollo 13, including the use of Ed Harris as the voice of mission control. (It even blatantly steals and idea from WALL-E and contains obvious references to Star Wars and Alien.) But its tone is drastically different from all of those films. Where those movies have a frantic aspect to them, with every moment devoted to the heroes solving the next problem or overcoming the next obstacle, Gravity has a peacefulness to it that sets it apart. And while there are moments of terror and suspense, the calm peaceful moments are what will stick with you after you’ve left the theater.